Momma, when was the last time you felt appreciated?
The last time you were thanked? And truly thanked? Not the, “Now, what do you say?” And in response because you’re teaching them manners you get a “Thank you.”
When was the last time you were given credit for, well, pretty much anything?
The saying goes:
Motherhood is a thankless job.
The job we do? Our little bosses? We don’t get a bonus for outstanding performance. We don’t get recognition or pats on the back or promotions.
Sometimes our job can feel like the small print on the bottom of a cereal box:
Please contact with comments or questions at 1-800-…-….
A.K.A. The complaints department.
But, do you want to know why you are appreciated?
Honestly. I know for a fact that your family appreciates you.
Those littles complaining and tantruming and crying appreciate you. Those bigs complaining and giving attitude no matter what you say and pushing you to your breaking point appreciate you.
Don’t believe me?
Okay, the next time someone in your house asks you to do something… which will be any second… wait for it… wait for it… okay, now that they asked… say no.
“No, Momma’s not going to do that today.”
Let me guess. You are now dealing with a tantrum, an eye roll, a slammed door, or a I can’t believe you JUST said that look.
We Momma’s aren’t just the complaints department, even if most days feel that way.
CEOs of our household
And more… so, so many more.
We think appreciation looks like a heart felt thank you, or an I appreciate everything you do and I don’t know what we would do without you, or a surprise gift.
And although we all love when we feel seen and appreciated and heard, this isn’t always what appreciation looks like.
Sometimes, appreciation looks like a family sitting around the dinner table eating a meal you cooked. Or a happy toddler when you found their lost toy. Or an infant who stops crying because you knew exactly what they needed. Or an excited smile when you walk into your littles classroom to help for the day. Or little arms around your neck after you’ve kissed a boo boo. Or a sweet, embarrassed smile when you cheer on your little during their soccer game. Or the head on your shoulder and I love you, Momma when you’re reading a bedtime story. Or the light in their eyes and smirk on their lips when they get their way. Or the way they look back at you one last time while they are walking onto the bus or into school.
Momma, you are irreplaceable. You know exactly how tight the diaper needs to be so it doesn’t leak. You know how much your little one can eat before they get a belly ache. You know which shape to cut which sandwich for which kid. You know exactly which battles to choose with your toddler. You know how to bounce and rock and hush and hum and walk a baby back to sleep in the middle of the night. You just know.
Their full bellies after they’ve eaten, is appreciation.
Their snuggle into the crease of your neck after they got hurt, is appreciation.
Their Momma, where’s my coat? Momma, where’s my book? Momma, where’s my baby? Momma, where’s my shoes? is appreciation. They know you know. They know you’re the knower of all things. You’re Mom! And you are appreciated for all that you do. Even if they don’t say it. Even if they don’t act like it.
And although our door is always open for recognition and appreciation (seriously, 24/7, open at all hours, whenever you feel the need), we Mommas don’t do what we do for the pat on the back, do we?
We do it because we are nurturers. We do it because we are strong. We do it because we love our families without conditions or limits.
The next time you feel like you need that pat on the back… or “you are supermom”… or you want to shout, “can anyone please stop taking me for granted”… I want you to take a good look around and see all that is good, because of you.